"I think every woman at one point or another in their life has been called a bitch. For a long time I had a real problem with that word, I didn’t like it and I thought it was derogatory. But I’ve gotten to a place now where I’ve made a lot of peace with it. It’s been so overused and made to seem so derogatory towards woman that I’ve adapted it into an empowering feeling for myself. If I’m a bitch then I’m a bitch, if that’s what an assertive woman is to you. So I’ve sort of adapted it as a badge of honor."
I got over being called a bitch the day my father called me one when I was in my 30’s. After that, it’s all been, “Oh you think I’m a bitch? My father thinks I’m a bitch, too. So what?”
To be fair, sometimes the male equivalent of a bitch is a dick or an asshole, not a boss or anything construed as positive. There is also a distinction between being an assertive person and being pushy, rude, and self-centered. But it’s still true that women are disproportionately belittled with a slur when they are being reasonably assertive and assured of what they want or need.
(Source: therealxtina, via curiouszoology)